Baby or childfree?

Which of these thoughts resonate with you?

• “I have trouble sleeping as my mind keeps swinging back and forth.”
• ​”I’m turning 35 soon, but we still can’t decide.”
• “What if we regret our decision?”
• “Is there something wrong with me that I can’t decide?”
• “My partner wants a child, but I don’t.” {or vice versa}
• “I’d rather be a dad than a mom: no pregnancy, less work.”
• “Is it okay to bring a child into this scary world of climate change, future pandemics, and social justice concerns?”

Relax—let Merle help you decide:

Merle is ready to help you find your answer. You will enjoy a sense of relief as well as excitement about launching your new life. ​Parenthood decision-making with a seasoned expert like Merle goes beyond lists of pros and cons to fully address your unique visions of the future, your personality, and relationship (if you have one). We’ll also address your anxieties and fears about both choices. We’ll address environmental concerns, role fairness, fears of pregnancy and childbirth. We’ll also tackle FOMO (fear of missing out) and fear of regretting either choice. ​

Not only will you arrive at a decision, but you will also feel relieved and confident and you’ll enjoy new energy and excitement about getting on with your life.

Merle is professionally qualified to do this work with you. She has spent over 40 years specializing in this decision. She wrote the bestselling book The Baby Decision, published in 1981 and updated in 2016 (links are further below). She contributed to Our Bodies, Ourselves, and has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Time, Newsweek, and other national publications.

Smart self-discovery tools will guide you:

You (and your partner, if you have one and so desire) will create a custom-made toolbox based on your personality, relationship, and concerns.  

This toolbox includes thirty-seven self-exploration exercises, and the wisdom of many schools of psychotherapy: existential psychotherapy, cognitive-behavioral, psychodynamic, internal family systems, feminist therapy, couple attachment theory, mindfulness, and compassion therapies. Every toolkit is loaded with playfulness, humor, and an empowering feminist/social justice slant.  

One approach that clients especially appreciate is the acceptance of ambivalence and fear of regret. This reassuring approach frees you to concentrate on the decision without distraction from your inner chatterbox!

Enjoy the book and related information:

Learn more about Merle’s book, ​​The Baby Decision: How to Make the Most Important Choice of Your Life,​ on Amazon and TheBabyDecision.com.

You can also visit this site’s Childfree and Motherhood pages to learn more about working with Merle on either of these choices.

Contact Merle today to talk about your parenthood decision-making needs. You’ll see Merle’s contact info after the testimonial below: